How to slow down your anger – 8 ways to deal with anger issues. Learn why anger is toxic for your growth and how to let it go.
Constant stress and too much expectation from everything lead most of us to lose self-control.
How To Slow Down Your Anger
The effect is sudden outbursts and vehemence which ultimately make us uncomfortable later. Anger or being angry at different issues is common for most of us.
But the challenge lies in how to calm down your anger and resentment. Today’s topic shares some vital tips on how anger spoils your health and how to slow down anger.
We think everything is to be controlled by us so that we can work out as we want. But it is better to be left alone and let it go at its own pace.
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How Anger Effects
Anger is a form of emotion, a negative and low vibe. It is a result of physical or emotional pain. No one is born with anger or resentment. Rather these innermost feelings are imitated by us seeing our parents, relatives, or friends.
The problem of holding on to anger or resentment is a response to certain triggers in life. Moreover, resentment grows from past hurts, painful events, shame, guilt, or fear based experiences.
Your past pain and limiting self belief acts as a set off to make you explode when faced with similar situations. Strong self-control is indispensable to slow down before reacting once you are angry.
But as a behaviour can be adopted it can be removed. In this post, I have shared 8 ways to slow down your anger and deal with resentment.
How to let go of anger and resentment
If you are struggling to release anger and resentment, this list of 8 tips will help you to slow down and deal with anger.
1. Take a few deep breaths
Long breathing is ideal to get your anger in check. When you are tensed with anger your breathing becomes short and shallow.
The flow of oxygen deteriorates in your blood system. You can easily slow down your sudden anger emotion by taking a few deep breaths. All this stressed anger begins in your body, take a close note of it.
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2. Know the reason
The moment you encounter that angry emotion spiraling in you, that’s the right time to hit your pause button! I know very well how difficult it is as I have repeatedly fallen into this trap.
Hold that reaction begging you to show any signs (for example hitting back with offensive words that are even crueler or shouting a pitch higher) in the strong clutch of your invisible mental hand.
Calming your anger starts with being aware of the source. Ask yourself, “Why did I get angry?“, or “What made me angry suddenly?”.
Knowing the reason for your sudden resentment. Follow your inner dialogue, and what it says, and you will find your true answer. Accept your true emotion
These are the types of questions you can play in your mind to get to the bottom of your anger:
- What am I feeling right now?
- What gave rise to this feeling?
- What are the emotions this situation or person is provoking me to show? ( Is it sadness, low self worth, inferiority complex, fear, shame, guilt, loneliness, etc.?)
- What old limiting self concept is this reminding me of?
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3. Control your ego self
Your ego self is very selfish and always wants to be satisfied. When you are angry your ego will always want to explode by hitting back.
Because you have been habituated to be like that. Your body wants to get back to that feeling of losing self control.
Even when you feel angry about yourself always be kind and show more self love and care to control your anger. Slowly try to ignore your ego.
Take charge of your mind by releasing the negative menace of anger and resentment.
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4. Pause before making a decision
Being angry is not the right time to make any decision. Anger based decisions are never rational and very impulsive. You may regret it later!
Anger distorts your logical thinking, moving away from the source of the outburst is the best to get a hold on yourself.
Remind yourself that you have nothing to prove to anyone if an action or word of someone triggers your emotions.
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5. Observe your triggers
For this, you need to be aware of what, or whose presence causes you to feel antsy. If someone you believe has been the source of getting on your nerves, then stay away from them.
If distancing does not serve the purpose then talk to them about your feelings. Just keep yourself away from triggering situations.
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6. Apologize if needed
If the situation is such that you have been led to react, just apologize. Stop thinking about whose fault it was.
I too was reluctant to say sorry and equally felt uneasy about hurling those words at someone. But a simple apology soothes something deep inside you.
Everything becomes peaceful by saying sorry first or mending up the scenario. Yes, it is difficult when our ego prompts us not to let go. But try this, as it is beneficial for your mental peace.
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7. Practice mindfulness activities to cool down
When sudden deep anger thoughts set you off, taking deep breaths mentioned initially is quite effective. But for long term solutions, a few mindfulness activities can come in handy.
Inactivity is a reason for restlessness and frustration. Simple exercises like yoga, walking, and stretching are helpful for both mind and body.
Moreover, try to sit in a quiet position and hold all your thoughts. A few moments of tranquility is a superb way to hold the rein of your marathon mind.
Engage in your favorite hobbies outdoors or indoors to keep anger at bay. These fun activities are potentially helpful for a balanced mind.
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8. Get help from trusted ones
Never hesitate to talk to someone you trust. Open up to that one person in your life whom you always confide in. You will definitely find help and peace.
If you are disturbed about anything or have been hurt by anyone, speak out. Talking your heart out reduces the pressing tension.
These are the 8 tips by which you can control your anger and calm yourself down.
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