21 Good Habits to Love Yourself More – Cultivate self-love for happiness and confidence
Are you struggling to be good to yourself nowadays?
Do your love yourself immensely?
If your answer to this question is on the side of No, or I don’t know, then you can keep reading this post to help you overcome your limited self-love and self-worth into loving yourself more with respect and self-confidence.
This post is going to reveal all the 21 good habits to make you love yourself more and start being good to yourself in daily life.
We all have goals and dreams in life. But life also throws us to face challenges and difficulties where your durability depends a lot on how you see yourself.
When I left my job and went after the free life I always wanted to live, my joblessness status was ridiculed or frowned upon by many acquaintances. And it really did tarnish my self-confidence and self-worth in me for a while. In a way, my self-love too got affected.
My self-worth is not based on how much money I make or how many possessions I have accumulated.
It is not even what job title I have according to the “Norm” of society as the benchmark to become successful and happy.
Rather my worthiness is based on how I have personally developed myself based on the values in my life along with my capabilities to turn around any adversities into opportunities. I love myself irrespective of my failures or achievements.
Your love for yourself is the foundation on which the facade of your confidence and self-worth is built.
Love yourself every day for the person you are, having different emotions, thoughts, values, or dreams. Your life belongs to you, not anyone else.
Normally this negative feeling of low self-worth grows in your mind from the reaction of your close ones in life, relatives, sometimes friends and acquaintances whom you meet a few times a year, based on your life’s decision or any action you take up.
According to Forbes, the definition of self-love goes like this:
” Self-love can be defined as an appreciation of one’s own worth or virtue. That includes accepting yourself as you are, prioritizing your needs, setting healthy boundaries and forgiving yourself when needed. Treating yourself with kindness and respect means taking time to take care of your overall well-being.”
Your self-worth is your capability to change your situation out of any life challenge, the love and respect you have for yourself even in difficult times.
How you treat yourself in your life plays a determining factor in your self-love journey. In this post, I am sharing with you 21 good habits that will help you to love yourself more and become more confident.
21 Good Habits to Love Yourself More with Self-Love Exercises for a Better Self
1. Change your mindset
Your mindset is a determining factor in how you see, think, and perceive yourself as an individual, your life, and the world around you. It is a set of core values and beliefs that you have about your life.
Create a positive attitude toward your life by inculcating a positive mindset. If you keep on believing that everything is negative and you do not have the potential for your own love and respect, then you are going to reap more negativity in your life.
To change your mindset and allow more self-love, you have to believe that are a lovable person. Opening your mind to that possibility is your first step to changing your mindset about yourself.
Life is all about new challenges and hurdles but if you inculcate positive thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, you have already won that battle halfway.
You do not have to shut your eye to challenges and problems in your days. But keeping a healthy and positive outlook on each event you are in will help you to cultivate more love for yourself.
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2. Limit your time on social media
Your social media scrolling habits affect how much you love and respect yourself.
Comparing your life with another influencer or friend on social media is your happiness killer. Your life belongs to you and judging yourself based on someone else’s flashy and made-up social highlights should not make you feel low about yourself.
There is always a real story for each one of the influencers that they do not show. You never know what pain and hurt they have been going through in reality.
The beautiful life you have been blessed with that you consider to be lacking can be even better than your fellow social media pages and account holders. Practicing self-love and believing in your worth is the stepping stone to the path of being good to yourself.
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3. Practice Gratitude
Taking a cue from the early point, be grateful for what you have in life right now rather than comparing, or devaluing yourself based on another person’s life.
Daily gratitude practice boosts your self-love, which makes you happier about your life and eradicates any tinge of stress, depression, or low self-worth.
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4. Practice daily affirmations
Daily positive affirmations can help you to get back your self-love and self-respect in perspective of your life. Affirmations reduce your insecurities and boost your confidence in the person you are and what you do.
You will fall in love with yourself if you keep up the practice of daily affirmations as it shifts your mindset and outlook to a brighter side of your life. That side is YOU!
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5. Be Mindful
Mindfulness helps you to become aware of your surroundings and the thoughts, emotions, and feelings going through your mind and body at any time of your day.
Practicing mindful living techniques like deep breathing, meditation mindfulness, and sitting in silence improves your level of awareness of your external and internal worlds.
Regular mindfulness exercise boosts the volume of your self-love in life.
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6. Start saying No
Start creating a boundary for you to safeguard your mental peace and health. Saying YES to your loved ones, friends, and relatives on everything can ultimately drain you off.
Avoid being a people pleaser in order to save relationships. If you do not want to commit or do something, show yourself love by saying NO.
This way others will have the chance to understand your boundaries. If someone genuinely cares for you that person will surely be aware of your limits.
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7. Try slow living
Living a simpler life helps to relax your mind. By slow life you are not slowing down but becoming more intentional about your lifestyle, what you do and what healthy habits you adopt to be able to declutter your mind and space.
Adopt a slow-living lifestyle to become more aware of your present and enjoy each moment with joy.
A simple lifestyle will allow you to be more connected to yourself and your surroundings. This good habit of living with less amplifies your own worth and confidence. When you slow down in your mind and state of being you are allowing more self-love to flow.
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8. Show yourself kindness and compassion
When you make a mistake think about how you talk to yourself. Your self-talk can be a great indicator of how much you show kindness to yourself.
Beating yourself down for any action or negatively putting yourself down is not good for your self-respect and self-love.
Nobody can be perfect so be kind to yourself showing compassion and good appreciative words that make you feel worthy of yourself.
Let your mind and ears fill with motivating words that make you feel strong and great about yourself.
Practice more kindness to yourself first which will help you to be compassionate to your loved ones. These good habits are contagious and, when cultivated grow immensely.
9. Stop Comparing your life with others
As they all say comparison is the biggest killer of your happy state of mind.
We all are different individuals having separate goals, ambitions, hurdles, challenges, and personalities. Your life is completely different from that of another.
Comparing yourself with the next person is a way to undermine your potential and the achievements you have made so far.
Even when we make mistakes there is always a way to bounce back and live your best life.
Though the act of comparison is very natural to flow in our mind.
Practicing self-love and having high respect for the person we are tend to negate this toxic habit of comparing our lives to others at every single moment.
Try to stop comparing your life with another for a week. Notice any change in becoming a better self full of confidence and self-worth.
10. Let go of external validations
Stop waiting for opinions about your life from others in order to make you feel confident and believe in your capabilities. Let go of any validations coming from someone who is not you. No one has the right to validate or be opinionated about your life choices.
Not caring for others’ validation is a great habit for you to be more confident in yourself without a doubt and have more self-respect and love for who you are.
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11. Let go of toxic habits, people and relationships from life
Remove any toxic habits, people, and relationships that are negatively affecting your mindset and self-worth.
Create new life-changing daily habits to become your best self. Practice self-love by surrounding yourself with people who pull you up not put you down.
You are more than worthy and deserving of a good relationship that will boost your self-confidence bereft of any judgments.
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12. Forgive and be free
Let go of any anger or resentment if you want to fill the jar of your happiness and self-love. You are not going to add any value to your life by showing hatred to someone who hurt you continuously.
The only thing you can do is minimize contact or better remove them from your life.
This is a very easy thing to preach to someone and follow yourself because many times I have given in to this bad habit of pain and anger only to find out that forgiveness saves you from getting drowned in the ocean of hatred and stress.
Set yourself free by forgiving YOURSELF first. When you forgive yourself and others you free up the negative anxious space from your mind and soul. This vacant space is perfect to fill up with your love and respect for the person who is YOU.
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13. Stop judging yourself
If you feel any emotion running through you, be it negative or positive, let it be. Avoid controlling any feelings that you are experiencing.
As humans, we tend to judge each other and this judgment starts from us when we always differentiate too much between right and wrong.
Accept yourself without any judgment by letting more self-love flow into your life.
14. Give yourself a compliment
Show self-love and respect by giving compliments to yourself. A compliment is another form of affirmation where you speak a positive and affirmative speech about yourself for your actions.
For example, when you get up in the morning stand in front of your mirror and see in your eyes and say ” I am beautiful”.
If you are having a challenge in solving a problem but anyhow you have found the solutions, say to yourself, ” I am awesome to find out this solution”
You are the first person in your own life, so never wait for someone else to compliment you.
Take care of yourself by starting to love yourself more with compliments and a pat on your back.
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15. Accept your flaws
We humans all have some flaws and to become flawless would be something superhuman! These flaws can be physical or emotional. But they should not make you feel anything less than the other.
It is very natural for every one of us to make mistakes. Allow yourself to make that mistake. Because we all learn from our mistakes and this helps in your personal development path.
Never diminish your worth by thinking that your flaws are something to be detested. Love yourself cultivating a new thought that you are beautiful and worthy enough to deserve the best life despite being flawed.
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16. Celebrate your small victories
Make your achievements create a feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction in your mind. Celebrate each one of your victories even if it is a small matter.
These small victories will add up giving you more self-confidence. That helps you to have more respect in your own eyes.
Pat your back the next time when you finish something that was held off. This daily habit is a booster to improve your life and help you on the path to practicing self-love exercises.
17. Take up small goals
Having life goals is important to keep up the ‘Fire’ and motivation to move forward and become a better self.
Write down your goals and break them down into smaller ones so that you can be able to easily manage and accomplish them one by one.
Once you develop this habit of ticking off one goal after another, it will enhance your self-worth as you become more confident in your life.
You will start falling in love with yourself more with brimming self-esteem.
18. Create something new
Working on a project gives you a new direction in life. Start something creative you always wanted to do but never felt the courage to go ahead with your dreams.
Make your dreams come true with small steps. Creation does not need to be something mighty.
Who knows maybe your small step turns out something more beautiful that can give you more confidence in your abilities.
Practice self-love by getting out of your comfort zone and building new things.
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19. Spend time alone to enjoy
Enjoy your own company alone in order to reflect on your thoughts and emotions.
You are the first person in your life and you deserve your love and respect without holding yourself back. Having a good time with yourself is a great way to remove any fear of being alone or insecurity of being emotionally dependent on others.
Self-happiness is achieved when we are alone not when in a group. It is an empowering habit to get involved with yourself in the true sense, boosting your self-worth and confidence level to new heights.
Go visit that park all on your own or go have a date night with yourself and try to have a great time.
If you are new to this good habit then plan your solo day on paper and find out what you want to do to stay confident while you are out.
If you don’t want to go out then have a cozy day off in your home all by yourself with movies, music, food, and creativity.
Or doing nothing! Just sit in silence and observe what you feel.
You will start to show more love to yourself when you spend time alone and enjoy it.
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20. Practice self-care for self-love
Taking very good care of your physical, emotional, and mental health in the form of daily self-care is one of the powerful and easy ways to fill your life and mind space with immense self-love.
Give yourself more time by adding more helpful good activities for your own sake rather than perceiving them as selfish acts. When you are in the habit of having more self care your confidence level improves lowering your everyday stress and anxiety from busy schedules.
Self-care exercises are also beneficial to make you feel more worthy as these caring practices when turned into a daily habit, boost your own value positively affecting your self-worth and self-esteem. You start to think of yourself as worthy of your own love and respect.
Self-care is the ultimate form of love you can show yourself for your positive mental well-being and physical health.
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21. Minimize procrastination
When you get your work done on time without delaying it to the last minute to either postpone or forget all about it, you minimize procrastination habit.
You become happy and confident about your capabilities of getting your task completed on time without having any doubt.
Your self-love journey and self-worth are not something to be calculated based on your achievements in life. Practicing self-love is the empowering habit that helps you to find your true value.
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These are the 21 good habits to love yourself more and build confidence. Try applying each one of these habits in your life one by one.
Have patience when starting with any habit of self-love. Otherwise, accomplishing all of these 21 self-love exercises will be too much at once.
Remember to love yourself first. Because only then it is possible to share your love and care with others in your life.
